Black Women- Her Stereotypes
Have you seen Isoken today? Isoken, another one of stereotyped Black Women who now go around, burdened with the tag– “Brown Skin Girl”. A tag that should speak of her glory but instead, it now carries another political meaning. She cringes when her White counterparts address her this way. “…but why not Black?”, she wonders.
How about Zandile, the dark-skinned South African immigrant, who just bought a house on this street? She hates it when she has to represent her company and everyone in the room looks at her in the usual kind of way– The can’t-they-get-a-White-male-to-represent-them kind of way. But still, she prides in fact that she is Black.
Lulu on the other hand hates it when her two children come back from school with complaints about how they are being treated unfairly. The only real friends they have are each other. Lulu would always go over to the school to express her agitations. But when she got tired of being labeled the “Angry Black Woman”, she yielded and transferred her children to a school with more kids of colour. But that doesn’t make them any less Black, does it?
Black is beautiful!
Oh, how well she glows!
Her skin with tiny beads of sweat, shines like gold. Have you ever seen Black in the sun– her skin popping with melanin? Her curves are lovely to behold– a home to the flower of sweet nectar, blossoming in between.
She is God’s own Earth, never scared of putting up her crown. Yes, She is Queen! Queen in her World– her world of HERfrica!
Black is a daughter and a mother of all daughters. She is never skeptical about investing in the progenies of her fertile ground; the younger generation. She never sees anything as a waste. Black is a safe place, a bank and a home.
Black is cool. Like the gentle waves of the sea, she is calm, whenever and wherever. She is calm because it runs in her ancestry. And though they may seem unruly to envious ears, she dishes out her loud guffaws, however and whenever she wants to. And yes, she blushes too. She really does.
Black talks a lot. She never gets tired of her story– a strange, familiar one. If you looked well enough, you would see through her, for she is transparent. She has always been. And if you came close enough, she could walk through you, dispensing unto you, a life borne out of love.
She is a burden bearer, one who will never break. She is versatile, she fits anywhere. Black is a fighter, she is never scared to start all over again.
Black never really fears the spotlight, yet, she prefers to give life to whoever else is ready to take it. She is bold. Strong. Fierce. Dominant. Defiant. Anything she does, she does out of a well of love.
She is made from nature, with nature– she is nature. Her nature is love and that’s what she preaches– the story she tells.
So if you ever forget yourself, remember the words of Tyler Henry:
I believe the black women are our healers. They can move a whole neighborhood with their words of leadership. Their confidence spark us Black men to be more proud of ourselves. They stand by us like no other, they pray for us and guide us like no other. They are the back bone for which we fight for . And without them, I think we may not be able to see our true potential. They care deeply for us even in spiritual battles that they themselves are in with us. They fight with us and for us. All I can say is I love you and we all thank you .
He who finds Black, finds treasure. But if you Black anyhow, she grows into a thunderous tide and stretches out her hand of rebuke.
There us more to Black, there’s more to HERfrica.
Authored by Titilayo Olatunde
Titilayo Olatunde is a young Nigerian fashion designer and commentator. She specializes in designing traditional and contemporary female outfits, never hesitating to make statements with her creations. She takes pleasure in her African heritage and as such, she is a natural hair advocate.
Her works border around the delicate themes of identity and love. And it is with this love that she harnesses her craft. When she is not creating, she’d most definitely be found consuming music, movies and books or simply spending time with the special people in her life.
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